5 Things My Favorite Clients All Have in Common
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”
— Anaïs Nin
Sometimes a date ends and I’m left almost glowing, dare I say. I stand there replaying how every moment felt so effortless, or how everything that could have gone wrong, went right – heh, take that Murphy’s law. Yet it’s never about the restaurant, the hotel, or the itinerary. The plans may be lovely of course, which helps, but the memories that make me smile when I think back are usually because of the person. Because of who they are, and how that reveals itself in the time we share.
It tends to show up in ways like this…
1. They Genuinely Desire Connection
I’ll be the first to admit, when I’m on a date, there’s a kind of thrill in wanting and being wanted. Feeling the anticipation in the air, and knowing we’re both looking forward to what’s to come. But when someone is as curious about my mind as they are drawn to my body, I find it makes the whole experience richer. There’s something disarming about it, allowing us both to soften a bit, eager to genuinely connect with the person in front of us.
2. They're Thoughtful and Considerate
It’s simple I know but I have such a soft spot for someone who listens to me. Who respects my boundaries without needing reminders. Who remembers all the little things: my thoughts, my feelings, what I want or think I need, and the one off comments that they had no real reason to hold onto. Maybe later he brings one up in casual conversation or does something small that says “I know you”. What a gentleman one must be to pay attention in such a way. It makes me feel cared for. And then I of course can’t help but want to care for him too. To notice all the little things that make him, him.
3. They’re Generous in All the Ways That Matter
There’s something undeniably attractive about a man who gives freely, but I don’t only mean in the obvious ways. I mean generosity with his time, attention, and effort. Whether he’s making room for me in a life that already asks so much of him, showering me in compliments, or finding small ways to make me feel adored, I love when giving seems to bring him pleasure too. I can relate to that instinct, that desire to do things for those you care about, so it feels especially lovely when it’s mutual.
4. They Trust Me Enough to Be Vulnerable
Words can’t quite explain how much it means to me when someone feels comfortable enough to let go in my presence. Especially because I know opening up doesn’t always come easily for men who have been taught to keep so much tucked away, or that to be vulnerable is to be weak. And I don’t only mean in the heaviest, most emotional sense. It can look like sharing screening information so I feel safe, welcoming me into his home, or letting me be a part of his life. Then there are the times when someone lets me see the parts of themselves they usually keep guarded. When they share their feelings, vent, or simply allow themselves to be human. Those moments, I treasure.
5. They Let Things Unfold Naturally
Some of my favorite moments have happened when neither of us was trying too hard to control what came next. Which is funny heh, because I’m a big planner by nature. I have so much fun researching the best activities to do or reservations to make, you name it. At any given point in time, I’m probably tinkering with an itinerary. But once we’re together, I do enjoy letting the evening surprise us. I love when someone understands that. They look forward to what might happen, without rushing past what is happening. Leaving room for laughter, conversation, chemistry, or a comfortable silence, rather than chasing some imagined version of how the date is supposed to go. I find that’s often where the magic is.
None of this is about perfection, of course. Heh, I’m far from it myself. It’s about the qualities I’ve noticed again and again. It’s about acknowledging and appreciating the little things that make certain connections feel so lovely. And maybe more than anything, it’s about remembering the people who made something in me light up a little.
Until next time friend xx